On Dec 30, 2007, at 7:27 PM, LACTNET automatic digest system wrote:

>  What I find
> most difficult, is when they say, for example, after four days: "I have
> tried everything, but nothing works", or similar wordings.
> Often, I have given all sorts of suggestions in a different stage of 
> the
> process and they then choose to listen to someone not knowledgeable, 
> giving
> advice that doesn't work, which I knew beforehand... :-s
> They sometimes expect me to validate all that, but I know that what 
> they're
> saying, is rubbish.

In these cases, I have to remind myself that our culture and community 
have failed this woman/dyad/family, and that what she probably needs 
most is to be loved unconditionally.  So that's when I shift focus to 
how hard it is to be a mom these days, no matter how you feed the baby, 
and I offer to bring over a meal.  Sometimes that's a magic wand.  I 
realize that we can't do this with every client, and it may cross a 
line for those of you who actually get paid real money ;) but to me it 
is a part of my vocation and I keep meals handy in the freezer for just 
these kinds of situations.

Lynn in MO

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