No hate mail here! Breastfeeding is important. Mental health is 
important. Attachment is important. Usually breastfeeding helps promote 
the other two, but sometimes it can be too much for a mother struggling 
with numerous obstacles to manage. Then we want to help nurture the 
attachment between the mother and child (and father and the rest of the 
family) and help the mother understand that she did the very best she 
could with the resources she had. This way we help her frame her 
experience in a way that helps her self-concept rather than eroding it.

It's vital to read and listen to those who don't agree with us with an 
open heart. It hurts sometimes, but we can learn a lot and moderate our 
own approach and beliefs when necessary. No one is right all the time. 
No one is perfect. We are all learning.

Catherine Watson Genna BS, IBCLC  NYC  www.cwgenna.com

On 3/10/2016 7:49 AM, Sonya Myles wrote:
  thanks for reading, Sonya Who is now gearing up for the hate mail that 
such a post often brings :( 
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