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>an example, baby has an intense biological need to be near mother for the first weeks/months/years of its life.. if mother is responding sensitively to that need (even if it means replacing herself with a caregiver that can, e.g. full-time nanny, grandma, etc) then she is practicing "attachment parenting" to some degree... que no?<

Firstly, in my opinion, it is much better for a baby to be attached to
a substitute-mother (like a nanny or grandmother) than not to be
attached at all.
However, a mother who hands over her baby to another woman can hardly
be said to be practicing attachment parenting. In fact, I would say
that she is practicing the OPPOSITE. She is DETACHING herself from the
mothering role.

One of my favourite books, which is now sadly out of print, is Selma
Fraiberg's "Every child's birthright: In defence of mothering.*
Older copies are available here:
http://www.alibris.com/search/books/author/Fraiberg,%20Selma


norma

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