I've always wondered why people don't take classes or read up on pregnancy
and childbirth, or parenting. Is it a mindset that can't be changed due to
"upbringing?" (Everything just happens, you can't change it --- certainly not my
attitude or one that my children have learned!)  Maybe it's a behavior we CAN"T
change no matter how hard we try? Some of the suggestions have been great but
as someone who has been in a prenatal clinic, trying to get people to "learn,"
I have to tell you it is just not that easy. Of course repetitive information
sticks and research shows that several unfocused positive comments have more
impact that a targeted, long term intervention BUT if they aren't receptive
that day, it can be lost.

Most people research buying a car better than they prepare for one of life's
biggest challenges. Liberal praise should be given to the ones who do make it
to a class or read a book, even a crummy one. At least you know they have some
motivation to learn.
When encountering a mom who hasn't prepared at all, I used to say "OK this is
on the job training, we're gonna get through this together." Sometimes they
want the help and sometimes not.
Mary Kay Smith, RN, IBCLC
Canton MI

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