Jennifer Tieman wrote:
> Would love to hear if anyone has any great ideas for encouraging 
> parents to
> view nighttime needs as just as important as daytime ones, especially 
> in the
> very early days!

What about relating it to them (adults)?

I think of several things when I think of leaving babies alone without 
their parents throughout the night:

*I think of my friend, 26, in the ICU who woke up from a coma and 
wanted her mother.  But it was nighttime; shouldn't her mother finish 
sleeping and go to her in the morning?  (I realize this sounds harsh, 
but ... )

*I think of being in a strange country, just having arrived, and the 
only person I know there won't talk to me, won't look at me, and what 
is more leaves me in the middle of somewhere I can't get out of with 
strangers.  I don't speak their language, understand their customs, and 
the only thing I want is the sound of my mother's voice, but I can't 
locate a phone, and it wouldn't matter because the operator only speaks 
Tamil (which I don't speak).

*I think of my husband's cousin who died from complications associated 
with a seizure because no one was with him at night.  And I think of 
stories about co-sleepers whose babies were saved from an anoxia 
episode because their mother was right there.

*I think of walking into my own baby's hospital room (semi-private) and 
finding him blue and not breathing (I went down to the cafeteria to get 
lunch), and the nurse was supposed to be watching him!  Thank G-d I 
came in when I did!

*I think: a baby is not an inconvenience.  A baby is a person.  Treat 
that person like you as a person want to be treated.

*I think: that baby may be in charge of their care when they can't 
talk, walk, or otherwise help themselves.  How would they want to be 
treated then?

I'm really sad to hear that this problem is PANDEMIC.

Katie

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