The experience I share here was not part of night training but an example of 
the best-intentioned parents beingn misled into doing things that have 
life-long consequences.
I was born in the middle of the Blitz in London.  The bombing was so intense 
each night that the family went to bed in the air-raid shelter in the garden 
instead of starting the night in the house and rushing everyone to the 
shelter when the sirens started.
However in the 1940`s babies and children were put to bed at 6.30 so I spent 
several hours alone in that shelter before my parents and much old brothers 
went to bed too.
They could hear me if I cried and I am sure they came to me if I woke up 
crying.  However one evening when my brother was still playing out in the 
street with his friends, there was an explosion very near, with very little 
warning time from the sirens.  My parents rushed out to the street to see if 
my brother was OK first checking that the shelter was standing intact.
However, the blast from the bomb knocked me out of my cot onto the floor.  I 
was only just over 2 but remember to this day the feeling of terror as I 
heard their footsteps running down the garden away from the direction of my 
shelter.  Only when they scooped up my brother who was perfectly safe, did 
they return and hear me crying hysterically.
They took me out of the shelter to show me that the house was still standing 
and that the family was intact but for those dreadful moments I thought I 
was left alone in the world.
I grew up being told that babies and young children were not affected by the 
bombing, in fact they suffered less than those children evacuated from the 
cities and separated from their families.
It took years of adolescent anxiety, postnatal depression, phobic anxieties 
about war and the Holocaust to accept that I had been totally traumatized by 
that experience.
My parents were the most loving devoted people and they really thought they 
were keeping me safe.
So those doctors who tell parents to "train their babies to sleep alone," 
should think of the consequences several years ahead.
Wendy Blumfield
NCT Trained Tutor Prenatal Teacher/Breastfeeding Counsellor
Haifa, Israel
(and I still quake when I hear the sirens) 

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