At the risk of getting serious again.....

Linda Smith writes:
> Deliberate disconfirmation is
>designed to shake up the existing belief system, and is designed to produce
>emotionally charged reactions. It's supposed to create discomfort in the
>recipients of the message so they can be open to a change.

I have no problem shaking up the existing belief system in this way. I just
think that belittling a mom for her feeding choice--which may very well have
been based on misinformation, lack of information, lack of support, etc--is
not going to open her up for change. I'm just advocating picking better
moments to do the shaking.

What I would really like to see happen, and maybe you have some ideas for
this--how do we take the reaction of the ABM mom who directs her venom
towards us as BF advocates for "putting her down" for her feeding choice (at
least as she perceives our efforts to "educate" her), and instead turn it
into anger towards the ABM companies and the non-supportive society instead?

Melissa Vickers, IBCLC
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