Oh, yes, Julie! Getting put in the middle, in a big way! LLL has always
trained her Leaders to never "cold call" a mother. The mother has to make
contact, never call someone because "their friend" or "their mother" or
whomever, called for "help for their" friend/daughter/whomever. 

At first, the whole idea seems cold, as if you don't care. But, if you look
at the real problem, here is someone (however nice they may be) who is
trying to manipulate a situation that they really have no business being
involved. It nearly every time sets up bad feelings - not necessarily for
the friend - but for the person (you) who becomes involved.

Charging for services is otherwise not an easy thing to do. There is the "am
I worth it" concept as well as the "how do I do it" concept. I still have a
difficult time charging for breastfeeding assistance, but have no problem
telling a mother my doula fees!!

Best wishes,
Sam Doak



<<I just had a phone call the other day...a woman left a message and asked
if I would call her friend up who just recently had a baby and needs someone
to tell her how great breastfeeding is. She also mentioned that she was
getting depressed and having a hard with breastfeeding and that she would
really benefit from talking to someone who knows about breastfeeding.  This
isn't my first call like this. I don't see the rationale behind this.
Anybody else get calls where people want you to call their friend, sister,
etc and talk to them about breastfeeding? I don't see people calling their
doctors and telling them to call their friend who doesn't feel good. 
>>

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