I often get calls from dads.  And most of the time I feel that the info
they want is such that I don't need to talk to mom.  If they are calling
for a pump ( especially with a sick or preemie) it is because mom just is
not up to it.  They come and get the pump and I show them how to set it up
and use it.  I encourage dad to have mom call me if there are any questions
or problems.  if I don't help them the pharmacy or medical supply house is
sure to sell them what ever they ask for without asking any questions
whether they need it or not.  When dads call for breastfeeding information,
I do the best i can to answer the question.  If it is a drug question I say
the same thing I would say to the mom.  If it is a breastfeeding management
question i explain it is easier to talk to mom to get specifics but most of
the time they are genuinely trying to get good info and help their wife and
child succeed at breastfeeding.  Let's not shut out dads and make them feel
not part of the breastfeeding thing.  Once I have won over dad mom is a
piece of cake.  We have many doctors in the area that are asian indian also
and I have been helping one with his wife and baby, I knew I had won him
over when he said why don't you talk directly to my wife.  He trusted me
and doesn't feel it is necessary to be a go between anymore.  If dad is not
on board mom's life is lot more difficult where breastfeeding is concerned.
 Just my humble opinion.  Same goes for grandma's by the way.

Time to get off the computer and catch the end of NYPD Blue

Lori Werrell, IBCLC
Leonardtown MD