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Dr. Rob wrote:
>> Mom then goes home and tells
>> her husband "The doctor said to wait another 6 weeks."
Jeanne responded:
>I think that only happens to husbands who haven't been helping with the
>housework and are in other ways inconsiderate. :-D
I must say I think Dr. Rob is right on the money, and it has a whole lot to
do with how stressful and difficult the pregnancy and labor and post-partum
recovery were, and how tired mom is, and little or nothing to do with
husband helping with the housework. It also says a lot about our culture,
where the wife's wishes are not often heeded by the husband, but the
doctor's orders carry great weight.
After almost bleeding to death and tearing badly during the emergency D&C
postpartum, and the stress of a baby with health problems, not to mention
moving to another state and starting my first teaching job, I wasn't up for
intercourse for MONTHS after my second delivery. I suspect most women, even
after normal deliveries, are not up for intercourse for more than six weeks
post delivery. In many traditional societies, mother doesn't have
intercourse again until the child is weaned, whether that be one year, two
years, or as long as 5 or 6 years.
Kathy Dettwyler
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