Lactnetter,
I originally sent this privately, but had a rethink and decided to post
this to the list. I hope it isn't too old.

Phillip said (on Lactnet last week):
> >Dear Di and all,
{snip}
>>Speaking for myself the last thing on my mind at any time was to "put
>>my children to my breast(chest)". I'd have to say anything like that
>>is so bizarre as to be uncontemplatable and such a thing could only
>>happen in America.
>>
>>Many of us out here in the world realise that Father's have different
>>things to offer to our children than mothers - one of those things I
>>don't have to offer is breast milk. This man found with shaved nipples
>>is clearly unbalanced!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I said:
> well said!
>
> My husband is completely incredulous that other fathers want to
> bottlefeed EBM to their babies (when the mother is available to nurse),
> let alone "nurse" with an SNS. He says that's not what dads are for and
> cannot understand why fathers are so insecure as to "want to be a second
> mother to their child". I suspect his view is unusual, but I do think
> it's interesting that he puts this down to male insecurity, rather than
> seeing it in the positive light of the "nurturing father" that seems to
> be the common view.
>
> I have to say that he is an extremely involved father, with a very close
> relationship with all of our children, even our baby son who was in my
> arms or a sling for virtually 24 hours a day for the first 9 months of
> life. He didn't feed our babies until they were on solids at about 6mo
> and I challenge anyone to say he is not bonded to them.
--
Anna H.

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