I've been helping a mom by e-mail. Oversupply, overactive let-down,
lots of pacifier, no sense in either mom or baby that nursing is
something other than feeding, and ultimately a nursing strike at 3
months.
As he came out of the strike and back into nursing, she called to say
"I love you!" over and over. Some days later, she called to say,
"He's wonderful!"... over and over. She couldn't get over the
difference, as I think of it, between breastfeeding and nursing. She
said it would never have occurred to her before to put him to breast,
for instance, if he had hurt himself. "It's not that I wouldn't have
been willing to do it; it's just that it never would have occurred to
me."
Now they're playing games at breast, communicating, unfolding their
relationship like some amazing flower. I can't help but think of the
lovely evolution between the first phone call: "I love you", which
was really directed at me, and the second one, "He's wonderful," which
was wholly, totally directed at her baby. What lovely days they have
ahead!
Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC, LLLL, pleased as punch for them in
Ithaca, NY
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