Hi All,
Had to throw in my .02 on this one...

We still have Patricks placenta in our freezer (it made the move into the
new house just fine...tho we did get a couple off odd looks from freinds
helping us move when they packed the freezer and asked "what type of meat is
this???"  :D  I keep wondering when the best time to "plant"  it will be,
thinking that maybe this spring would be nice.  But then I thought, well,
maybe when he weans.  Well, hopefully, if I wait until he weans, then it
will be a LONG time before I have any "planting" to do!

I wondered if anyone had any problems (emotional letting go of the BF
relationship) with weaning their last child, expecially when they knew it
was their last child.  How do you counsel a mom (or yourself, for that
matter) who knows that after this last one weans there will be no more of
that BF relationship with any other babies?  I have talked to a couple of
moms in the past few weeks about this, and realized that I, too, am having a
very diffficult time with this issue.  PJ is my last baby (thanks, dh  :(  )
and when I think about him weaning, I start crying.  Seeing babies, and
knowing I can't have anymore, just tears me apart.  The women that I spoke
to had similar feelings, and I told them quite honestly, that I did not know
how I was going to deal with it, other than to mourn like crazy.  (If my
hubby were open to adoption, I'd be starting the process right now!)  This
BF thing has become such an important part of my life (been doing it for 4.5
yrs now non-stop) and is so important to my PJ, that I wonder how long it
will be before he weans (he shows NO signs of it now at almost 2, thank
goodness!) and when he does, how will it affect us?

Any thoughts on this topic?  The emotional aspects of "extended" BF, or BF
in general, never hit home until it became crystal clear that after PJ was
done BF, this part of my womanhood and part of mothering would be finished
permanently.  I think it important to have some idea as to how to help
others women deal with this situation, especially if it is as important to
them as it is to me.

Looking forward to your thoughts on this...

Jay

In cold Sacramento, CA where it has been freezing an unusual amount lately!
WAY too cold to go outside and dig a hole...
Jay Simpson, CLE
Sacramento (State Capital), California, West Coast, USA
"No Miracles performed here, just a lot of love and hard work."