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Dear Anne,
I hope this helps. The Myers-Briggs is a vocational aptitutde test that
evaluated people on four scales. One of the scales is the thinking/feeling
scale. People who make decisions based on feelings are "F" and people who
make decisions based on data/objective information are "T". It's a continuum
and you can be anywhere on it, but most nurses are not surprisingly "F" .
It sounds like the people who are scolding you are "F" they are mostly
concerned about the feelings/perceptions of the people around them. You on
the other hand, are mostly concerned about the information/misinformation
that is being given. That is a T trait. One approach to reach an "F" is to
say, "I don't want to make this mother/team member feel guilty/bad etc. but I
do want her to succeed at breastfeeding and I think this practice could be
harmful to her. Is there another way to say/express this information that
would work better? This does two things. 1- she "feels" validated that you
are listening to his/her concerns. Feelings are very important to an "F". 2-
it gets her involved in the problem solving process. I have very strong T
traits and have learned this the hard way.
Best wishes,
Cindy Neary RN, LE
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