Dear Sharie, I'd tell her How-to and then concentrate on how-can she take
baby with.  It will probably be the end of nursing otherwise.  Not many 4
mo old are that forgiving.  Plus I'd sure hate to be the caretaker.  I've
suggested, in the past, a caretaker to go along with, skip the cruise - you
have the rest of your life, babies are only babies for such a short time.
Another point of view is baby's.  Tell her how baby will feel about the
whole thing.  One time my s-i-l borrowed my oldest for a medical conv.
They flew in from their respective states to a third state.  Then Kay kept
the baby and fetched her down to Aunt Peg whenever it was mealtime. (Like
many moms do at LLL and ILCA conv.)  I've had bridesmaids keep baby in
church nursery with a helper or in a nearby hotel.  The possibilities are
endless really.  She just needs to expand her possibilities.  Isn't it a
shame that these young moms don't have an old mom's perspective? (My
youngest is 28, soon to be 29 and they're expecting their 2nd - #14
grandchild for me!)  Another hopeful thing is that as she gets more and
more tied into the baby she'll realize on her own that this won't work.
Sincerely, Pat in SNJ