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"Gretchen Andrews, IBCLC" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sun, 15 Feb 1998 23:05:25 EST
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Hi!
I'm new to Lacnet; having lurked on the edges a week or two now and wanted to
add a couple of ideas to the great ones that have already been presented.  I
had the opportunity to teach a class on Infant and Toddler Development through
the local community college to a group of high school girls via their pregnant
minors program.  Couldn't agree more with the comments on lack of eye contact,
few or no questions, very little participation in discussion - until after
they see that you are a trustable adult. Many of these young ladies have had a
distinct lack of trustable people in their lives so they distance anyone they
don't know to be "cool".  One thing that all mothers need, but most especially
the teen moms, is to be empowered.  To know that they are the only one who can
breastfeed their baby and have that very important critical relationship that
no one else can have with their baby.  Oftentimes, teen moms are living in
their parents homes and still subject to a great deal of parental control.
Breastfeeding is a means of determining one's own destiny and having some
degree of control when there may not be many other opportunities to feel in
charge of their own life.  Encouraging the young ladies to at least try is
great.  Frequently the baby will make the decision for her (as babies so often
do).
Appealing to vanity issues is another good stategy.  Most teens are very
concerned about their physical appearance, so discussion about how
breastfeeding helps get mom's body make in shape faster usually gets their
attention.
When speaking with any audience (or any body for that matter) you need to tune
into their body language and how they are reacting to what you may be saying.
This is even more important when speaking to a group that tends to not be very
verbal (at least not to strangers - they'll be talking about what you say for
a long time after you leave.)
Sometimes it works to ask if anybody has heard things that frightened them.
If you don't get any volunteers you might have a few f'r instances ready to
share.  Emotional connections rather than recitations of factoids tend to get
better responses and build a bridge between you and your audience.  Have fun!
You'll probably have a much more far reaching impact than you think you will.
Good luck!
Gretchen Andrews, IBCLC, LLL in soon to be drenched -yet again- So.Calif.

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