In a message dated 96-11-15 10:47:10 EST, you write:
<< I guess my problem is that I felt really guilty that I had told this woman
 about benefits of breastfeeding ... even though she's desperately unhappy
doing it, but would feel worse because she wasn't doing the best for her
baby.>>
 Denise,
What I would suggest is listen to her feelings, validate that it is a very
difficult time for her.   I would explore what her life is like, i.e. where
can she find places to cut back stress like is she on a committee at child's
school, planning someone's wedding shower, keeping the house immaculately
clean, (basically doing way too much) etc.  Explore if she naps during day,
co-sleeps, gets out of the house with baby.  Do not minimize the benefits of
bf or blatantly give the OK to stop bf.  What I mean is that it is her
decision if she chooses to do so.  You would not be judgemental, of course,
if she did wean, and you told her that you would continue to support her.
 You may tell her that many women go thru these critical periods and are very
stressed out, yet regret the untimely weaning, realizing that the stress is
there for bottlefeeding mothers as well, as it is inherent in caring for and
adjusting to a new baby. Good luck.
Laurie Wheeler, Rnc, Mn, Ibclc
Violet LA