I have a philosophy of always keeping the power with the mom.  This way
I never take on the responsibility if she fails. (She didn't really fail
anyways. She was exposed to a life lesson she was supposed to learn
from.  Who knows how many times in different facets of her life she's
been been exposed to this very same lesson but didn't learn enough.
Motherhood is a notorious teacher of lessons not learned earlier.)

The following is an example of how the power play can go:
I could say, "You may want to consider pumping. Pumping can relieve
engorgement,  get the baby milk, and keep your supply up, so if it takes
a little longer for the baby to be interested in nursing you'd be fine"

Or I could say, "I want you to get a pump today and pump 8 times a day"

With the first statement she is in charge and will take it from there by
asking about pumps or whatever if she is truly interested.  Perhaps
she'll give me more info like "Oh, I hate pumping".

With the second statement she'll probably just nod and say yes, whether
or not she is truly interested, cause she doesn't want to offend or
challenge me.  Sometimes there is only way to get away from an LC or
LLLL who wants something for you more than you want it for yourself, and
that is to act enthusiastic until you can make your escape.

I also want to mention LLL's role aquisition paper (in its LC series).
It is so great and showed the stages a woman goes thru emotionally to
aquire the role of mother and how noticing what stage the mother is in
can help us know how to talk to her and what info. to offer and how to
offer it.

- Joyce LLL in Orem Utah