Thanks so much all of you who wrote. I needed to tell someone who would know
exactly how I felt.
Family is great but my husband just looked at me and asked "Did you ask which
one of them tried to contact you?" Not that I'm a chauvinest or anything (so
for the gentlemen here with us please don't take offence) but why do men
always see the logical side first and scratch their heads at our (female)
emotional reactions? My daughter on the other hand, looked at me and said "OH
mom, she's on drugs...nobody on room air does stuff like that."

I was off today so I don't know how much heat is still floating around.
To answer your many questions--
1)  No, I did not go back into the room. I debated about that issue. Frankly,
I was a little afraid--the nurses said the dad was raving almost as bad as
mom.  I want to be physically assulted too. If I went in and appologized that
would be like admitting guilt.  If I went in and acted like nothing happened
then she might go *off* again. If I tried to explain that she may have
misunderstood me who knows what would have happened. Real ethical deliemia.
2)  The baby was finally put to breast (In the middle of the hub-bub) by one
of the nurses who thaought it would calm her down. The baby nursed
beautifully. Mom was still upset. By the way the head nurse in the nursery
told me that they had asked mom if she wanted the baby several times but mom
insisted she wasn't feeling well enough (there's a credibility issue here:
she lied to me about the nursery keeping the baby and then to the nurses
about me--I wonder if anyone else figured that out.)
3)  Yes, anesthesia DID come sedate her. Why? Because she had duramorph and
they have to take care of things like that if the duramorph is still working
(I admit I don't know much about duramorph except that we stopped using it
for a while and it's back in vogue again).
4)  I wondered about other issues myself--like maybe she didn't want to
breastfeed and she felt like everyone was twisting her arm and I was just one
more straw. I did find out that she had the c/section because on newly
diagnosed active herpes, but I don't know much more.

Thank you,
You have made me feel much better
Marie