Hello--I have a mom of an 8 mo. old who has a problem to one Janet
Simpson described earlier--similar, but different!  The situation is
that the mom works with some travel.  Baby stays home
with dad during the day. He is also the caretaker when mom travels.
When mom is at home, and the family goes to bed (co-sleeping),  baby wants
 to be latched-on all night long.   If  baby falls asleep and mom
detaches,  baby wakes up screaming.  Mom cannot even get a sip
of water or shift position.  Mom can sleep a bit in this
situation, but not very well.  Several factors:  1)  mom has recently
changed hours so that she spend more time at home with the  baby in
the a.m., but comes home later in the p.m.  She is willing/able to
switch back.  2)  baby does fine when
mom travels  3) baby will rarely take formula, never takes a
pacifier  4)  I read some of the exchange regarding Janet's situation
to the mom.  When we got to the one about food intolerance, the mom
said the baby had some of those signs.  I asked if the mom drank
milk.  She does.  I said I didn't know how likely food intolerance to
milk was in an older baby, but that I thought the mom should drop
milk for three to five days and test.  She said she didn't think it
was milk because the situation does not occur every night or all day
long.  I asked her if she drank milk every night, and she agreed that
she did not.  She also informed me that she could not tolerate milk
as a child.

The family's preference is to continue co-sleeping, as they love it,
although they have found that starting the baby out in the crib can
help. We talked a lot about the baby viewing this as a way to snuggle
up with mom, get her attention, make up for lost time, etc., and the
mother acknowedges this , but is still desperate for things to try.
Any theories or ideas?  TIA