Sue has some good points, and, Some people/moms may feel a person is  
"mean" if they (even gently) voice opinions that conflict with the  moms' image 
of themselves as good moms. That would be a normal and expected  reaction. 
and, Seems there is plenty of research regarding  that we/people cannot make 
moms/other people *feel* guilty, that feeling is  internally sourced, ... 
people/we/moms feel guilty for a reason, we know we  could/should/might in the 
future, do better.
 
 
Debbie Tobin
RN, BSN, 20 yr IBCLC -> lapsed
Fairfax  County, Virginia suburbs outside the Washington DC  beltway

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