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There was an article in Mothering magazine in which a mother described
weaning her clingy son by going completely opposite to all the advice.
She started offering the breast ALL THE TIME. The first 2 days, he took
her up on it every time, maybe 30 times. By the 3rd day, he started
refusing. Once he knew he could have the breast whenever he wanted, he
didn't want so much. Perhaps this is something this family might like
to try.
Julie Tardos
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>Hi
everyoneJust wondering if anyone has any suggestions to offer for a
mother who is desperately trying to wean her 19 month old son. She is 8
weeks pregnant and has very sensitive nipples. She also thinks she needs
a break from breastfeeding before the baby arrives in September due to
feeling extremely tired and overwhelmed. Her toddler is very capably
self-attaching (whenever she sits down) about 3-4 times during the day
and last night 3 times through the night. She starts the toddler off in
his own bed after the night time feed (with which he refuses to settle
without), but then usually ends up sleeping with him in his room on a
mattress on the floor. Her husband (baby's father) is willing and
available to help in any way that he can, but toddler screams the house
down if no breastfeed happens, so mum comes in & the breastfeeding
continues for the peace of all. She has already trialled several of the
usual methods for mother-led weaning but is not
finding anything
that works or that works for her. She is certain it is a comfort issue,
has tried a dummy and security blankets and teddy bears, but he wants
nothing but a breastfeed. He is a picky eater when at home with his
mother, but will eat a variety of solids and other drinks very well at
daycare but then comes home & want to breastfeed. She is open to any
ideas whatsoever and has given me permission to post here. A
chiropractor has mentioned there may be a security or attachment issue
due to a traumatic and interventional birth (induction, epidural &
forceps). Mum has always used attachment parenting, demand feeding, baby
wearing and co-sleeping) and prefers gentle approaches. Mum is open to
complementary therapies but is unsure if she fully believes in this
theory. However, she has booked to see a naturopath tomorrow. I
suggested maybe she discuss with the naturopath re herbs that may reduce
supply (and hence may lessen toddler's interest
in the breast,
although he is likely getting very little anyway), something to apply
topically to nipples or something that may alter the taste of the milk. I
explained that it would be up to the naturopath if there was anything
she would recommend as possibly useful and providing it was safe during
pregnancy, for the toddler ingesting it and to the skin of the nipples.
Another thought I had was nipple shields. Could they help in this
situation? Could they act as a deterrent if the toddler does not like
them? They may also help with the nipple sensitivity. I mentioned to
the mother about tandem feeding (and avoid this stressful issue now) and
she is aware that this is possible but doesn't think she would like it
as she will be busy enough with the newborn. I talked to her about
keeping an open mind, that any decision is not all or nothing and goals
and decisions can be changed. Any suggestions greatly appreciated.
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