If it’s an “ick” factor I think the ick is something bordering on sexual. 
Families seem to fall into the milky breastfeeding lifestyle pretty easily but I 
think Itlooks sexual to outsiders. I’m not sure if it’s the american culture but 
we seem to be uncomfortable with sex and even with pure unadulterated love 
compared with many Europeans. I look at how more open sex s dealt with in 
foreigh movies. Breastfeeding is raw, individual, real and out there…and perhaps 
even sexual I suppose.  Matters of procreation are all bundled up together
 
If someone wanted to molest children I doubt their first idea would  be to go 
take in a foster children and all the headache that entails.  But “authorities “ 
have to make some kind of rules. we have so many rules in place for every state, 
county and federal jurisdiction that we are forgetting to use common sense, and 
litigation seems to be at the bottom of it all as is evident even in all the 
crazy interventions dealt us by the hospitals.  But we must persist with simple 
effective love or we will be turning out kids bent on hurting someone or adults 
not able to recognize and take responsibility for their actions as they dodge 
rules about rules with more rules with good lawyers. 

. 
There is no better place to start than with breastfeeding and really giving of 
ourselves, if we feel inclined.  Surely a baby can feel when a caregiver is 
holding back something she wants to give, how confusing it must be. It’s so sad 
that something basic to mothering, which is what foster parenting is all about, 
must be withheld  according to rules meant to apply to criminals. 



Vicky York, IBCLC, CPD
Portland, OR


      

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