Karen writes:
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/blogs/sfmoms/detail?entry_id=43677
Karen and all,
Warning: this is going to sound nasty, but is not directed at anyone here:
Honestly, I feel like I have read everything I ever need to about
bottlefeeding mothers not getting enough support. All our local LLLLeaders, as well
as the local IBCLCs bend over backwards to make sure mothers know whatever
options they need to or seek to know about in a supportive atmosphere. I
can't stand another comment like "I don't respect ANY ( emphasis mine)
breastfeeding proponents because my one friend had a bad experience." I'm
exhausted reading about how great doctors are who dismiss that there is
anything happening after three months of breastfeeding and "you gave her all she
needed anyway." The ignorance in the medical community continues to shift
blame to us and we are called "unsupportive" in ours. If we tell the truth,
no matter how lovingly we do it, we are the bad people. If the HCP community
in a hospital does not have the time to address the issue of going back to
work for a mom with a 4 month old, then they are called unsupportive, when
the MD could easily handle such a thing, or local support groups. Maybe
there are a few people out there who will not give a mom the help she needs
to use a bottle safely for any reason, and try to preserve her preserve
breastfeeding while she works, but I don't know them. We bear the nasty words
and the ridiculous generalizations of wounded people who cast their
woundedness wide and blame a whole group for the ignorance or attitude of one, or
they misinterpret the truth as we know it, for dogmatism. Moms may have had
a bad experience with a pediatrician ( one local one often makes mothers
cry) and yet I've never heard a mother say she hates all pediatricians. I
guess the one good thing in these rants is that mothers are becoming aware
that bottlefeeding does matter, in terms of flow rate, and being responsive to
a baby's needs rather than just pouring in liquid as fast as possible in
as few feeds as possible. I will hang on to this like a life raft, the next
time I am getting flooded with this kind of venting.
Peace,
Judy
Judy LeVan Fram, PT, IBCLC, LLLL
Brooklyn, NY, USA
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