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Sent: Wednesday, May 28, 2008 12:27 AM
Subject: Re: [LACTNET] Safe bed sharing, safe sex analogy

**Hi Judy,

The other thing I thought of
> is this:  most campaigns around condom use no longer refer to "safe sex"
> but
> instead to  "safer sex." Perhaps this would work with Safer Sleeping as a
> slogan.

**Makes you wonder... what about safer driving, safer eating, safer
going-about-in-places-where-there-are-people-with-easily-bought-weapons,
safer sporting... or safer LIVING?
Life is never without risks. It is this attitude that, originating from
America, as far as we can see all the way from Europa, entails this "I'll
sue you", whenever things don't work out the way you thought or hoped or
planned. If you want to be 100% sure, then either kill yourself or don't get
born: that'll keep you safe from all kinds of very bad things that might
happen to you... :-s

My, I get so tired of all this guilt-rubbish: make sure the public gets good
information and then let people make their own decisions. And if you make
decisions, take into account that you are responsible for the consequences
and don't blame everything on someone or something else. So make sure *you
yourself* get good information and don't take the easy way out. In the
Netherlands and probably in Germany and several other countries, there is
this saying that is still, after more than 60 years, very full of emotions:
"Ich habe es nicht gewusst", "I didn't know", mainly referring to people who
deny having known about what was going under during Hitler's regime. Very
often, it is not a matter of 'not knowing', but more a matter of 'not
wanting to know', because knowing sort of gives the obligation to act
accordingly and be brave and persistent. I know I should not have a nice
dame blanche after a copious dinner, if I want to lose a few kilo's. But I
do (did, yesterday evening :-)) and so I shouldn't complain about not losing
weight.

I think that in general, we can really say that people know that
breastfeeding is best. To a certain extent it is a *choice* that parents
make, if they don't investigate *how much* worse formula feeding is and just
let bf slip through their fingers (or secure attachment, for that matter,
when it comes to the nightly hours). In this day and age, in developed
countries, people have an overwhelming amount of options to gather
information. Why do they not? Because they don't put it on the top of their
priority list. As simple as that. Does it make them feel guilty when we say
out loud that breastfeeding is best? Good. That means their conscience is
still working and they still have all their wits about them. :o)

So, off the soap box and back to daily work, with a friendly smile and
drawing from sources of patience within. As the buddhists say: "Be grateful
for difficult, annoying people. They give you great opportunities to
practice and enlarge your patience." ;-))

Warmly,

Marianne Vanderveen, Netherlands


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