I have permission to post. Got a phone call this afternoon from an old friend who has recently moved upstate to live close to her son and his wife and take over babysitting their 6 month old.? Mom has returned to work and is pumping and when she runs out she will give formula.? 
My friend called to inquire about a concern she found in the home. That her daughter in law is having wine after work each evening. She says the bottle which is "larger than a regular size bottle of wine" is over the course of 5 days down about 3/4.? She is concerned about the breastmilk passing the alcohol to the baby and causing the baby harm.
My concerns was how much did Mom consume each time she drank. I also told her that sometime ago when I was breastfeeding people thought a glass of wine or beer in evening would help baby "sleep better" and might even help Mom increase her supply by "relaxing her".? Grandma is concerned that she may cause this baby to be "addicted".? I told her that if addiction and alcoholism run in family it's more genetic.? She approached her son who defended his wife and felt that it was not harmful...needless to say this is a rocky start to someone who moved herself 500 plus miles away from everyone she knows to be closer to her son and help establish a relationship with his new family.
She is heartsick and would like the opinion of my fellow LactNetters as to how she should approach this.
I told her there are many variables to this and she would like some different opinions to help her.
So please share your thoughts in email to me [log in to unmask]
Leanne Jewell RN-BC, IBCLC, LCCE,FACCE
S Florida

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