Arly writes:

Find out  where she's coming from, and go there.

Listen.

When appropriate,  agree.

Let some of the incorrect stuff pass, for the  moment.

Empathize.

Find the one door that is  unlocked.

Gently let yourself through.


Arly,
 
Wonderfully said, and probably applicable to any relationship/situation  
where people are hurt, strong in their opinions, and/or just didn't get to learn  
what they needed to help themselves. Actually, anywhere people have trouble  
communicating. Useful with teengers and other living beings...:)
 
Peace,
Judy  

Judy LeVan  Fram, PT, IBCLC, LLLL
Brooklyn, NY,  USA




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