Gonneke, for the record, I didn't read any part of Kathy's post as angry,
rather just a difference of opinion.  I realize you did state that it wasn't
your "primary" goal, but in the next line you said specifically that you are
not a woman's advocate.  To quote:  "I am a baby's advocate, not a woman's
advocate."  Perhaps there was some miscommunication?  Perhaps I am just
confused.

Seeking to understand,

Christina Harris, RN
Seattle, WA

On 5/28/07, gonneke van veldhuizen <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
>
> But, Kathy, I only said that meeting mom's needs is not my *Primary* goal.
> I didn't deny the need to meet moms where they are and to see to baby's
> needs within mom's possibilities and boundaries. Please do read well before
> getting angry, I was in no way trying to be offensive neither moms nor
> lactation consultants.
>
>   Warmly,
>
>   Gonneke, IBCLC, LLLL in southern Netherlands, woreking from son's PC,
> while mine won't wake up this morning
>
> [log in to unmask] wrote:
>     Gonneke writes: "I dare to disagree with some posters. My primary goal
> is
> not to help mom achieve her goals, but to help the infant/child help
> achieve
> her/his goals. I am a baby's advocate, not a woman's advocate. I write and
> speak
> on behalf of the children, to obtain their rights and to have their meets
> met."
>
> When we don't advocate for mothers, when we dismiss their goals, needs,
> feelings, pain we serve neither the mother nor the baby. If I felt that I
> was
> not an advocate for women, I could not continue this work. Who am to
> presume
> to understand the pressures, life history, financial, social or inner
> resources of another women.
>
>
>
>   Met vriendelijke groet,
>
> Gonneke van Veldhuizen, IBCLC
> lactatiekundige

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