---- Barbara Whitehead <[log in to unmask]> wrote: 

> I have testified both in court and in judges's chambers with families  who 
> are trying to reach these types of issues. The best thing for the mother to  do 
> is to write up an plan in which she shows that she is trying to reach an  
> agreement that is best for the baby and will attempt to meet the  dad's and  
> baby's need for each other... >>


Just want to second Barbara's recommendations. I've had similar experiences as an expert witness and agree completely with her.

A bit off-topic re: BF -- IMHO, the child shouldn't have to pack up and go to their different parent's homes. Too bad parents can't set up a single stable home for their child(ren) and then the allegedly more mature, adult parents pack and move back and forth re: "visitation." I get sick when I hear stories of all children must go through to have time with both parents. 

Karen

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