Renee says,
 
<<I am hoping that  the doctors and  nurses in the NICU are well 
informed and will talk her  into it, but who  knows.  Just needed to vent and 
hopefully get an  online hug or two for my  failure and inadequacy as a 
breastfeeding  
advocate.  Guess I really failed  this one.   :(>>

 
 
Renee, this is like being an  anti-smoking advocate, and trying to get mom to 
stop smoking because it is best  for her lungs.  You can't.  She "knows" all 
the right answers.   Don't continue to push her for the sake of your 
friendship -- simply accept her  for who she is and the decisions she makes.  However, 
that said, perhaps if  you took it out of the context of breastfeeding, and 
tell her that you  understand she doesn't want to breastfeed, but would she 
consider providing  breastmilk for her baby just as long as the baby is in the  
NICU.....
 
Sorta like telling a mom who  smokes that she doesn't have to quit, but would 
she consider only smoking  outside.....
 
Do NOT take it personally -- there  may be issues in her life that you know 
nothing about, including sexual  abuse.....
 
Jan Barger, RN, MA, IBCLC, Wheaton IL
_www.lactationeducationconsultants.com_ 
(http://www.lactationeducationconsultants.com/) 
"I  would rather live my life as if there is a God, and die to find out there 
isn't,  than live my life as though there isn't, and die to find out there 
is." -  Pascal

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