Jennifer writes:

<I think I
then promptly dropped myself from her good graces by stating emphatically
that there are no cons to breastfeeding!  I could just see her bristle
and
start to tune me out, and realized I probably spoke a little too
strongly.
I have a few more weeks with her, though, so am hoping I can present my
message in a way she can better hear.>

I am paraphrasing a statement I remember reading somewhere, perhaps by
Ruth Lawrence, to the effect that "breastmilk is best for all babies, but
the breastfeeding process is not best for all mothers . . . . .", which
acknowledges her right to evaluate and prioritize the reasons she has and
freely make her own choice, but opens the door to mention that there are
things like past experiences of childhood abuse, or badly managed
breastfeeding situations with previous babies that might make her choose
to avoid breastfeeding, etc. etc.

Hell hath no fury like a woman (who feels) scorned.

Jean
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K. Jean Cotterman RNC, IBCLC
Dayton, Ohio USA

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