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Kathy Boggs posted:
About that Cohen book: if we should just rely on our instincts about BF, why
should we do any different about nighttime sleep? What would be the
adaptive function of the 'abandonment instinct', which I have just named
here? I am referring to the advice to tuck an awake 4 month old into bed,
kiss her goodnight, and then come back the next morning. Has anyone ever
seen a mother *instinctively* leave her baby, who is helpless to do anything
about it but cry, and then not respond to the baby's distress? Because I
sure haven't! When I see it it is ALWAYS a learned behavior, usually from
some crackpot book.
Question:
Is this advice not to respond to a baby always from a male and/or doctor
author? I myself have not seen this advice from a female. My guess is that
it is a control issue on the part of these docs. They wish to have the mom
exclusively available to the husband/father, with whom they identify.
Judy Ritchie
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