Priscilla you wrote, "It certainly was a lesson on thinking before speaking.
I sure wish that I could go back and do it all (right) over again.  It feels
awful to have hurt someone so much."

I am not sure I should comment because I was not there to hear what you said
or talk to the person that supposedly feels bad.  But I think health care
professionals have an obligation to give facts based on evidence.  We are not
responsible for others perceptions/emotions.  That is something out of our
control.  Deliberate hurting of someone by knowingly saying something that would hurt
them is one thing, giving evidence is another.

I had the wonderful experience of working with someone who like myself was
promoting breastfeeding.  She had never had children nor was that a possibility.
 She really had no emotional investment in what the mother did or did not do.
 She spoke the facts.  After I shared with her Marsha Walker's Risks of
Artifical Feeding, she would state the statistics (10 fold risk of hospitalization
for bacterial infections, etc)  She got mothers to make a commitment to at
least make the attempt to breastfeed.  I don't think she went home wondering if
she hurt someone's feelings.  She was doing her job--educating them.  Just as
she educated them on cigarette smoking and the risks.
Valerie W. McClain, IBCLC

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