Lavinia says,


> My gut feeling is that given the state of affairs in our hectic world, if we
> confront the scheduling with a proposal of total chaos, we will lose the
> battle.  Faced with the inflexible mother, we can always propose one more
> month before they apply "the method".....and just hope that in that month,
> the toothless smile, softness and cuddliness of her baby will make her
> surrender to the magic.
>
>
>
Such wonderful words and so very true, Lavinia.  I think we have to assure
mothers that feeding the baby on cue, when he/she needs to breastfeed,
doesn't mean a life of chaos.  We have a responsibility to assure these moms
that babies tend to fall into a fairly predictable routine within two to
three weeks.  It's a rare mother that I talk to at 3 weeks that when I ask,
"How many times is the baby bf in 24 hours" says other than "Oh, every 2 to 3
hours."  They do not answer my question in terms of numbers of time -- they
answer it in terms of the routine their baby has developed.  Most of them can
tell me when the baby wakes, eats, naps, wakes, eats, and sleeps -- all
without PUTTING the baby on a SCHEDULE.  True, there are those babies that
are still totally unpredictable, but they are few.  And "starving them into
submission" will not get them on a schedule.

How I wish these moms could learn to just love their babies and get to know
them....
Jan Barger

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