>
>A friend of mine is writing a book on infant sleep. She has been
>interviewing various "experts" on this topic, and has commented to me that
>she feels many of the proponents of "crying it out" and "teaching the baby
>to sleep alone" are primarily concerned that the baby's waking is disrupting
>the sex life of the baby's father. They are opposed to letting the baby
>sleep with parents and to going to the baby when it cries not because they
>really think it harms the baby but because they feel it reduces the amount
>of sexual activity between the couple, and that will therefore harm the
>marriage.  I thought that was very interesting.


This certainly lies behind much of the Ezzos' thinking. In Babywise,
one of the rationales - in fact the major rationale - behind getting
the baby to feed according to a schedule and not through the night at
all is the idea that not doing so harms the marriage. The emphasis on
sex is not spelled out graphically, but this is what they mean.

Heather Welford Neil
NCT bfc Newcastle upon Tyne UK

             ***********************************************
The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned
LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM)
mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to:
http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html