In a message dated 1/14/00 8:31:11 AM Central Standard Time,
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<<  It says to me that women have been led to
 believe that BFing is a very hard and risky business, and often doesn't
 "work" at all, so that as long as the baby doesn't reject the breast (and
 the mother) outright women can consider that it's "going well". Reminds me a
 bit of the kind of insecurity many women have about relationships with men -
 like a bad partner is better than none at all. It bothers me. Just another
 subtle way we've learned to de-value our bodies and our selves and our own
 power. >>

yep.  And a "good birth" is one which produces a live baby and mother
(regardless of their physical/emotional scars), and "natural" means "not by
c/section." Very sad.  Advocates are accused of making people feel bad if we
tell them there can be more to birth/bf/life than this.

Elaine Ziska
Jackson, MS

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