Marie, Thanks for sharing such a personal story. I agree with you 100%. When I first found LLL almost 8 years ago, I needed it for the mothering not the breasfeeding. By this time, my oldest was 5 months. We had already worked out the breastfeeding kinks at this point, but I was struggling with my mothering. My instincts were telling me one thing, while my own mother and countless others were telling me the exact opposite. Thank goodness for my first LLLLeader who assured me that it was okay to follow my instincts, that attachment parenting was okay. I still keep in contact with this woman who was and continues to be an excellent role model of mothering. I find that many moms who call for breastfeeding info., eventually come around to questions involving parenting. Aloha, Gloria Thai LLLLeader Hawai'i _____________________________________________________________________ You don't need to buy Internet access to use free Internet e-mail. Get completely free e-mail from Juno at http://www.juno.com Or call Juno at (800) 654-JUNO [654-5866]