Jennifer, I'm glad you wrote to the list. I think it's important for all who work with new mothers to get the perspective of the people we serve. Keep in mind that this list is often a place to air our frustrations. We are all different in our approach and the bad experiences always get more air then the good. I hope you can somehow let the LC in your area know she has a poor approach. She needs to know. This area of work is a delicate balancing act. Sometimes you fall off. We live in a society where children can grow up healthy and bright with ABM. We know that breastmilk is the very best in more ways than nutrition but I've sat and cried with too many women who just could not get breastfeeding to work. Sometimes it's an LC's most important job, (to make this mom feel she HASN'T FAILED) she may be the only one that understands how sad this mother feels that it just didn't work. We then need to shift gears, let the mother know that the work that she did do, the breastmilk the baby did get, the effort she put out was worth it. Her baby got a very wonderful gift for however long. Mothering lasts a lifetime, breastfeeding is a most wonderful time that every mother/baby deserves but babies do wean at some time and mothering continues past this time. Mothers need to feel that they've done the best they could, with what they had at the time. Love to ALL moms. Linda Clarkston, Wa.