When I joined Lacnet I didn"t think I would be posting about a personal situation, but I am at wits end and am hoping that someone can help me. My daughter (Anna) is 21 mos. old and nursing. When her teeth started erupting I noticed a ridge just above the gum line on her top central and lateral incisors. It was not very noticeable at first, but as her teeth grew, the ridge became discolored. Aprox. 4 mos. ago I made my first trek to the pediatric dentist and was told my daughter had bottle mouth decay. My Anna who has never had a bottle cross her lips! I was also informed that I must wean her since extended nursing is what caused it. Didn't I know all children should be weaned by one year? The dentist explained "contacts" to me and told me if i continued to nurse (which I do) that I would have to count each nursing as a contact, and Anna could have no more than 6 contacts in a day including her meals, snacks, and drinks. He felt that the best method of treatment would be to bond the affected teeth, but because of her age, she would have to be strapped to a papoose board and would not be given any anesthesia. Needless to say, I decided on a second opinion which I got today. Guess what? The second pediatric dentist agreed with the first and further stated that if I insisted on nursing Anna, she would not guarantee that the bonding would last. I AM SO FRUSTRATED!!!!!! Neither one of these dentists could show me any clinical studies that proved that extended nursing causes dental caries, but one did hand me a pamphlet that states "It has been proven that nursing for prolonged periods or delayed weaning can contribute to the destruction of the child"s teeth." How can my daughter have bottle mouth decay?? How can breastmilk come in contact with top front teeth?? One dentist told me this happens because of tongue thrust and the milk pooling (with breastfeeding?), and if that is the case, why doesn't she have any decay on the back of her teeth? Why did both of these dentists make me feel like I was a lousy mother not to mention the fact that they equated my IBCLC to breastfeeding fanatic (and proud of it, too). I don't know much about the formation of teeth, but isn't it possible that the enamel wasn't formed properly on my daughter's teeth since they were like that when they came in? I have run out of pediatric dentists, so I am hoping someone will have some wisdom to share with me. Thanks, Pam