Or one could ignore that he said anything about formula and try to put this dumb comment in a positive light. Shooting a sunny, conspiratorial smile toward the doctor, focus on the mother with "He's saying formula is an A+ because he knows that is what mothers want for their babies, and he's trying to give you a strong reason to breastfeed.. We health care professionals have always said things like "breast is best." But it's interesting -- we're actually now starting to think it might be even more powerful to point out that breastfeeding is "normal." Anything else is a substitute, and it bears the burden of proof --and there's never been a scientific study where formula produced better outcomes." (This could probably be cleaned up, but that's the idea.) Maybe you'd seem a little oblivious, but such an approach co-ops the doctor's authority for your goals, by assuming he really was trying to say "breast is best." It's more important that the mother take away a positive idea, than you get your satisfaction in nailing the speaker. Of course, the best answers are always the ones you come up with later -- I believe that both German and French have a phrase for "the wisdom of the stairway" -- the blinding revelation of exactly what you should have said that comes as you're on your way out down the stairs... Margaret Wills, LLLL, IBCLC *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET email list is powered by LISTSERV (R). There is only one LISTSERV. To learn more, visit: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html