OK Ladies - I need some assistance. This is regarding my granddaughter. MJ is 10 1/2 months old, exclusively breastfed by a stay at (my) home 19 y/o mother who practices attachment parenting. MJ nurses on demand, (we don't own any bottles)co-sleeps and has never been away from her mother for more than long enough for her mother to run to the grocery store. The problem is: The father of the baby wants overnight visitation. The parents have been trying to work together. He has been welcomed in our home, sometimes for overnight or 2, and she and the baby have spent overnights in their (he and his mother's)home. Now he's saying he wants 3 days every other weekend. He does not work (or pay child support) consistently, has had run ins with the law, and has significant anger management problems. She had to call the police last night while I was working because he was shouting, slamming doors, waking the baby etc etc etc. I have tried reasoning with him, showing him E. Baldwin's research and so forth. He feels that I have "doctored" the papers because I work and the hospital and can do that. (I wish I had that kind of pull!) Does anyone know of any other research or suggestions we can make? He seems to think that nursing is the issue, we keep telling him that secure attachement is the issue. Please forgive me for the personal nature of this post. I'm just so desperate to do what is best for this baby and her parents. I've also had nursing mothers in similar situations and wondered what to tell them. Thanks! Debra Ray, RNC, IBCLC *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html