Nikki--it is always hard to come up with the response we wish we could have when faced with the unexpected. Also, because those of us who support mothers and babies are compassionate by nature, we don't want to kick a down dog by telling the mother the truth because the truth hurts sometimes. It is heartbreaking that most of the medical profession does see breast(milk) and formula as interchangeable and the baby's needs as intrusive to the mother's recovery. To have spoken up about her choice being poor at that point would have painted you as the villian, "how could that militant LC insist this poor suffering mother continue to drain herself by breastfeeding?" So many times those of us in b/f advocacy are portrayed as militant and inflexible when we try to help a mother see the long-term implications of her choice to wean to formula. Don't blame yourself for wanting to get out of there as fast as possible. We've all had that farewell conversation in one form or another, and only later think of things that could have been said. But would they have really changed the mother's mind? Despite saying that they know it is better for baby, they don't want to b/f and are looking for professional sanction to wean. "The dr. said it was okay to switch to formula", or "the nurse told me I had to give the bottles". *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(R) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html