Hi Diane and all, Gosh Diane, I think you and I would have a lot to talk about if we ever spent an afternoon together! One of the very most valuable things I have to offer parents is explaining/translating baby behavior. Many on Lactnet have posted on this. I use one of our genius contributor's words using China as an example of being in a totally different environment but there are 2 people who you know and understand, mom and dad. No wonder baby loves to be close to you, you're home, safety, comfort, love, and food. Sometimes I share about my attitude with our first baby, who is now 14. ( I was an unwanted child and had a not so great childhood) I don't know what I thought our first baby was: a task to take care of, or a pet....... Some friends were over and talked about Andrew's blankets and Andrew's bottles like he was a real person who had possessions and owned things. And I thought 'Oh! He's a little human being with his own thoughts, feelings, and possessions!' Our friends had no idea the impact of their statement, I think it was a God thing. Since then, I've figured I can't be the only new parent with a hang up like that. My point is for parents to look at their babies' cues and body language. Susan in Minnesota, USA rn ibclc *********************************************** To temporarily stop your subscription: set lactnet nomail To start it again: set lactnet mail (or digest) To unsubscribe: unsubscribe lactnet All commands go to [log in to unmask] The LACTNET mailing list is powered by L-Soft's renowned LISTSERV(R) list management software together with L-Soft's LSMTP(TM) mailer for lightning fast mail delivery. For more information, go to: http://www.lsoft.com/LISTSERV-powered.html