I have one brother and he's four years older than I am. Our relationship was never very good and really hit bottom when he ended up providing all the care for our parents when they were deteriorating from elderly health considerations (I lived 1,000 miles away). But, I have been determined to improve things and thought that music and the internet was the best avenue to take. My Brother, Stan, has been a steady and devout classical music lover since childhood; no rock music or any other type for this man, whereas I stopped listening to classical music when I reached puberty and didn't get back into it until I was almost 40 years old. I've been trying to get him to join the list, but he has some kind Of paranoia about getting "ripped off" by hackers. So I suggested to him that we try to exchange some recordings - his undesireables for my undesireables. Stan was agreeable to the deal, and I was very enthusiastic about making some selections from his vast library. Stan's not a "go-get-em" kind of guy, so I initiated things by e-mailing him a list of about 50 cd's I could live without and also informed him that there were plenty more where those came from. Expecting a large list back from him, I was eager with anticipation. Well, his next e-mail said that he thought my list was great, and he would write me back with his offerings. Some offerings - he sent me a list of six recordings, nothing but Vivaldi and Tchaikovsky. He's so generous, and I had already told him that Vivaldi and Liszt were non-starters for me with Tchaikovsky not far behind. I wrote him back, indicating that I had no interest in his list, but that I would be glad to send him any number of the fifty I offered at no cost. He liked that idea and has offered to pay the mailing charges. Even though this exchange is going to be rather one-sided, our relationship has picked up considerably, and classical music has been the foundation for the change. So, I'm going to keep going down this route and try to increasingly solidify our bonding. The wives are a problem. Stan's wife is bossy, intrusive, and sneaky (real sneaky) ; although my wife is great, Stan sees her as a "cold fish". By the way, does anyone have a large box I can use? Don Satz [log in to unmask]