Hi Diana and kathleen and others who have responded to this post.

I wanted to talk about this because this can be very stressful for a  
new mom. I have mostly seen it as later onset,
at about 3-5 months. Yes right when babies are going through other  
developmental milestones. For a mom who can't retreat to a bed, futon,  
or couch 8 times a day or has to take a plane somewhere this situation  
can get moms really stressed.  Even though the moms feel strongly  
about bf, my current mom is resorting to bottles as she is so worried.  
One of the reasons I'm putting this out on Lactnet is because I want  
to make it real. Not every mom is going to surrender to this.  I have  
been seeing this for so long and have read nothing in our books about  
it. I would like to call it:

Breast refusal: Babies who only breastfeed with mother lying down.

I would like to see this get in our text books. I guess the next step  
is for me to write up a case presentation.
I see this in the context of facilitating mother's groups. I believe  
this is a very real type of breast refusal and puts mothers at risk of  
weaning as some don't want to lay down to nurse for two years. Some  
think something is different about their baby(yes) and start giving  
bottles unnecessarily. We need to understand etiology and how to help  
resolve this issue.
So far 3 people from our list have observed this.
Thanks so much,
Star Siegfired

>
> From:    Diana Cassar-Uhl <[log in to unmask]>
> Subject: Re: Babies who only BF with mother lying down
>
> Hello!
>
> I have one of those babies who will only nurse lying down!  She is my
> 3rd, and I'm definitely an "experienced" breastfeeding mom.  She did
> have some reflux, we are an allergic family, so yes, there were those
> issues, but Gabriella wanted to nurse lying down from day one.  I can
> count on one hand the number of times we've breastfed from a seated
> position, and those haven't been "good nursings" by any standards.
>
> I got very worked up about this in the early weeks, until my very good
> friend from La Leche League suggested "maybe she wants you to lie down
> with her because she knows it's the only time you ever do."  This was
> such a wonderful realization for me, that I didn't have to "diagnose"
> or "fix" anything, I just needed to enjoy some cozy time with my baby!
>
> She's 17 months old today (5/5) and we still have the futon set up as
> a bed in our living room -- we retreat there several times a day and I
> am so thankful for sweet Gabriella who makes me take a few minutes to
> slow down!
>
> --Diana in NY
>
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