From: Lisa Boisvert-Mackenzie <[log in to unmask]>
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 Subject: Ferber



 Thank you!

 I wholeheartedly agree that the Ferber method is not a subsitute for human
 response. It conveys the message, go ahead and cry, I will not respond to
 your needs. In responding to a child's cry we teach them to comminicate
 their needs, to trust us to respond to them and to gain confidence that
they
 are capable of communicating. It also tells the child, I trust you to tell
 me what you need. And most impotantly, you deserve to have your needs met.
 To deny a preverbal human being a response to their cry is cruel and
damaging.

 Believe ot or not, the book has circulated among the ex-pat parents here!
Arrghhhhh!


 Lisa Boisvert-Mackenzie, Midwife
 East Caroline Islands, Pacific Ocean

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