First, A huge THANKYOU to all those who responded, both on  post and also 
privately.  I have used all of your suggestions and here are  the results.  Yes 
the DCI was bilateral, and as she explained it to me,  they took so much out 
that she basically got "a free boob job" as in  implants.  At 18 this was a 
"cool" thing, now at 22 and as a mom, not so  much.  She seems to have come to 
terms with the diagnosis and surgery, yes  I agree she has a lot of grief related 
to her inability to do the normal thing  and feed her baby.  I talked to her 
again about banked milk and also an  SNS.  She jumped at the SNS suggestion 
and is so excited she cannot stand  herself...."you mean I don't have to make 
milk to breast feed my baby????"   SO SWEET!!  She has an appointment tomorrow 
with the Staff LC to discuss  its use and when developmentally her baby will be 
able to suckle at the  breast.  While she agrees banked milk would be best, 
she says that for her,  formula would be ok, if she could still feed her baby 
at the breast.  She  is going to ask the LC about the banked milk again, so we 
will see what comes of  it.  I have talked to her extensively about her 
"guilt/grief" of inability  to produce milk.  She seems much more reassured now and 
after a few tears,  is actually smiling (I think the SNS really brightened her 
day).  I look  forward to hearing more about how her baby grows and thrives.  
Lucky little  baby to have such a loving young mama!!
 
Again thank you--you guys are the GREATEST!!
 
Renee
 
"Women should not feel guilty if they are unable to breastfeed, but  they 
*should* feel guilty if they are unwilling to do so, and they should be  
intellectually honest enough to know the difference." -Elizabeth Gene 

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