>
>Anyway . . . just be grumpy and saying "watch out for hugs."  They may not
>be appreciated.
>
>Kathy


Oh, Kathy....I know what you mean.

Sometimes, formal distancing helps people cope with unpleasant procedures.
I could give loads of examples.

It's a bit like doctors and nurses thinking they are being ever so
'friendly' when they use one's  first name during their care. A national
newspaper ran a campaign against this a couple of years ago here.

Older people especially find it offensive - I know my grandmother did. She
asked them to call her 'Gran' instead of 'Hilda', if they couldn't manage
Mrs Peel,  and they just ignored her.... Unless you can call the doc or the
nurse by *their* first name, it's belittling. And even if you can,  you
don't ncessarily want to be on first name terms with the person who is
carrying out intimate, below-the-waist,  undignified procedures on your
person.

Yet when it comes to bf support, of course, I always expect first
names....no contradiction here, I hope.

Heather Welford Neil
NCT bfc Newcastle upon Tyne UK

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