>I have permission to post.   I just saw a woman prenatally whose 
>partner is not supportive of breastfeeding because he fears the loss 
>of breast play during the breastfeeding period.   Does anyone have 
>any suggestions for reading material that might be useful?  The 
>internet would probably not be a good idea unless I knew specific 
>sites. 
>
>Thanks, Eileen


This is to do with their relationship, and control, and a man being a 
child and/or a bully, placing his sexual needs above the health needs 
of his baby and the body chices of his partner.

Perhaps a chance for the mother to reveal wider concerns about the 
balance of power in her life?

The facts are easy enough: i) for many partnerships breast-focussed 
sexual activity continues unaffected by breastfeeding, according to 
individual choice  ii) normal health, growth and emotional 
development are fostered by breastfeeding, and there is a price to 
pay for  curtailing bf or not doing it at all for any reason  iii) 
the integrity of a mother's autonomy over her body is paramount in 
all sexual relationships

Which facts do this couple have difficulties with?

Heather Welford Neil
NCT bfc, tutor, UK
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http://www.heatherwelford.co.uk

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