----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Morgan Gallagher" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Monday, December 22, 2008 12:48 PM
Subject: [LACTNET] Failure Versus Triumph, a paradigm difference


> I disagree Marianne.  First you must know you are being attacked, and
> then you must know you are strong.

> Accepting there is an aggressor, is not victim hood either.  It
> empowers.  You need to know you are being attacked, and who is attacking
> you, in order to fight back!

**That is... if you choose to fight your attacker. :-)
That is something different than struggling with your inner enemies.
Some people would say: "I'd rather fight for something than against 
something else."

> I'm intensely uncomfortable with models that break down societal
> dynamics as those who fight, and those who are victims.  It smacks of
> the same ludicrous concept that a fighter will win out against cancer by
> sheer force of will, leaving 'the weak' to die.

**You can die and be a winner and live and be a loser. Depends on your 
paradigm and your frame of reference.

That some people with
> disabilities 'triumph over disaster', whilst others 'give in'.  Or that
> the beaten and battered woman, only needs to walk out the door to stop
> the violence. That all that is required, to overcome anything, is a
> sense of perseverance and personal integrity. .  It's a paradigm I
> refute utterly.

**You are utterly free to do that and also to disagree with me.
I don't feel attacked by that, nor feel the need to fight against it. ;o)

So... once again... happy days, filled with a sense of inner strength to all 
on and off this list!

Warmly,

Marianne Vanderveen, Netherlands (and indeed still putting in many hours 
against the dreadful guideline and in the meantime becoming stronger and 
stronger and a more useful resource for others)

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